The reason
why I feel so strong about abusive language that disrespects and makes fun of
the women’s anatomy and why keep suggesting men and women around me to get rid
of this habit and why I get enraged the moment any of these abuses run into my
ears.
Two
years back, while I was still in the graduation, on the roads of lucknow when my
scooty was my only companion to discover less traveled roads and my adventure to
become a solitary traveler. Something happened that shook me from within. To
others it might be the most insignificant incidence to fuss about, as I was
often told by the people. However to me it was big. No it was not eve teasing
or molestation .It was the abuse that was directed against me by a man who
seemed educated and was mere a stranger.
I still
remember that September month in 2013 when I was passing from ICCMRT College,
in Indira Nagar. Just to figure out the new road, I took my scooty on the road
side to travel through. One man in big car (I hardly noticed his car, after the
words he said to me).There was no vehicle that time on the road .He screamed at
me “****” .why are you standing here alone. I froze for the moment. I could not
imagine someone said that to me. I never heard this language in my family .In
school, friends said among themselves, I never thought that it means so brutal.
But that moment, I can never forget in my life, I started shivering and crying
.I felt that man’s words have raped me in broad day light. Yes a man is capable
of raping a woman with eyes and words. I came back home and for nearly an hour
I cried without realizing what happened to me. Was it really not that big
thing? Was I making fuss? As people said to me .Days later when I started
thinking about it, I realized when a stranger said to me, it felt so brutal and
demeaning. What turmoil and disgust a woman goes through when her husband or
father or brother abuses her or use this language to converse among themselves
all the time. In every patriarchal society, abuse is part of the language, one
cannot complete sentence without using an abusive tone. Does Constant exposure
to such language makes her hate and think of her body the way men see it.
Abuses that talk about fucking mothers and sisters, degrading her private parts
in public, her vagina is set on fire with the language. How nobody notices and
questions. Why fucking of a woman becomes so natural and spontaneous. If you
want to take revenge from someone, thing is simple just fuck their mothers and
sisters. But then we respect and honor our own mothers and sisters.
Why
patriarchy never respected the organ from which the life originates.
In
comedy shows in name of humour, how double meaning language is used. Maa ki
ankh,Behen ke pakode. This illiterate and rowdy country laughs on these jokes. Recently
all those who came in support of AIB roast, were they out of their senses when
they defended the roast in the name of creativity and freedom of expression.
How can abuse of body (male or female) physical or verbal be expression of
freedom and creativity? This is the sheer sense of perverseness and substandard
joke making. I am even more shocked to see women who come and support this and
then claim themselves to be feminist. This is seems to a mockery.
Hey
****, I am feminist
Hey
*****, I respect women.
Fuck
women and you respect women. We know and believe women are meant be fucked
.They are born to fucked.
Coming
back to what I witnessed, it took me a few weeks to recover from what I heard.
I wanted to kill that man. This incidence enraged the hitherto hidden feminist
in me.
But
today I realize, killing him was not the solution, even they don’t know how
their language is misogynist. But its high time when they should know. They
grow up hearing this. Abuses that demeans female’s anatomy is one of the
shameful legacies that patriarchy has passed on from one generation to the
other. I will never stop making fuss about this. I will never, no matter to
people how cynical or irrelevant I might sound.
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