The Marriage Mirage

In her dilapidated house Jashodaben sits on the old wooden chair. The wooden chair is also symbolic of her life-destroyed by termite (marriage.)Like wood is not aware of what is killing it inside, she remained ignorant of what destroyed her from within. Only today she realizes what really it was.

She is reading the newspaper that is full of rhetoric delivered by her kind of husband in the rallies. These elections only one liners, empty rhetoric, word gamble has been in the news, modified and amplified by social media.

Suddenly the wind of anger touches her face; it has stirred her soul within. She realizes that it has been ‘her life’ since she had been bearing the badge of ‘Modi’s wife’.

Thus she decides to write to the women of the country regarding the mirage of marriage. Unlike her husband she cannot afford PR agents or ad agencies. She has to prepare her speech on her own; she takes down the old diary, which has yellow pages.

Over half century old anger, hurt, agony comes down in the paper.

“I was forced to live in melancholy,

Lead an anonymous life.

You became king, the mighty wise.

You abandoned me.

Greed of power was the cause

This is the tale of marriage that never was.”

 The women of the country please lend me your ears, along with mind and heart as well. I come here to tell you the lessons I learnt about mirage of marriage that is forced on the women in our country.

My kind of husband never mentioned that he was married to me in his earlier nominations. Since now he is heading for 7 race course road, he suddenly becomes honest and says the truth. Oh lord! I am not accustomed of such acknowledgements from him. Since that day he mentioned he is married to me, I twice have had mini heart attacks. Such a patriarch he is.

I was in my late teen when was married to him. Within few days I was sent back to my father’s house place to study and forget this marriage. Till then I thought my studies were the reason why he left me. So to please him I continued with my studies. I cleared SSC (old pattern), became teacher. But my efforts were in vain. He never came back.

I learnt that he has decided to lead the life of sannyasi and became RSS pracharak but why in the hell he married me in the first place, when the ultimate goal of his life was ‘power and fame’.

When I first learnt that I would have to live life alone I was afraid. But later life taught me lessons that I wish every woman should learn.

First and foremost is that, don’t make marriage your ultimate goal of your life. It will ruin your life and dreams. You see men are real clever species .they will flirt with girls, enjoy with her, but they know they priorities really well. In a way woman is the time pass for them. You people must have seen cocktail, it shows that man marries a woman, not the woman he loves or flirts with, but the woman who would keep his house. She just does not marry a man, she marries his entire family.

Woman when in love feel like sacrificing everything for the man. She sacrifices her dreams and career to keep man happy and his family. Have you ever seen a man who was so deeply in love with the woman, that he left his career and abandoned his dreams to look after her needs? If answer is, No. Then why you are so willing do it for a man. This is the reason why for centuries men ruled the world (science, literature, medicine etc.), because women were forced to stay home.

My kind of husband abandoned me for his bigger dreams. He is not regretful for this. Then why should a woman be regretful of prioritising her career.

Second illusion that woman live with is that men are deeply passionate about them. No. They are not. For men –women, love, sex are temporary passions and refuge. Their permanent passions are glory, power and fame. The power promises more frequent orgasms than sex. It high time women too learnt that their life is beyond men, their husbands and family chores.

Third is the regressive notion that is followed in this country. Women are incomplete without men. Our mothers told us till you marry, your life would be incomplete, whereas men are considered complete and independent creatures.  Notion -that It is woman who has to depend on man, makes them think women as parasite that will feed on them, and would die if host abandoned her. Man is always given the charge of driver’s seat. If marriages demand adjustment then who said it has to be made from woman’s side.

I do not know how many woman of substance were annihilated by the mirage of marriage.

I will not ask not to vote for your favourite party or leader .but just think twice before you vote, that you people would let person with misogynist reticence of his married life rule you.

Now I would like to say few words for my kind of husband, once you rejected me. Today I reject you.

Sun lo mera inkaar

Nahi chahiye apki baar modi sarkar.